Finding Mr Perfectly Fine by Tasneem Abdur-Rashid – Blog Tour Book Review

About the Book

Last week I turned 29. Along with the usual homemade Victoria sponge, helium balloon and Selfridges gift vouchers, my Mum’s birthday present to me was the threat that if I’m not engaged by my 30th birthday, she’s sending me off to the Motherland to find a fresh-from-the-Desh husband

When Zara’s Mum puts together the most archaic of arranged marriage resources (not exactly the romcom-worthy love story she had envisioned for herself), she is soon exhausted by her family’s failed attempts to set her up with every vaguely suitable Abdul, Ahmed and Farook that they can find. Zara decides to take matters into her own hands. How hard can it be to find a husband at twenty-nine?

With just a year to go, time is of the essence, so Zara joins a dating app and signs up for speed dating.
She meets Hamza, a kind British Egyptian who shares her values and would make a good husband. Zara knows that not all marriages are based on love (or lust) at first sight but struggles with the lack of spark. Particularly when she can’t stop thinking of someone else . . .

As her next birthday looms, and family pressure intensifies, Zara knows she must make a decision, but will she make the right one?

About the Author

Tasneem Abdul-Rashid is a British Bengali writer and podcaster born and raised in London. Having recently completed a Master’s degree in Creative Writing, Tasneem spends her days writing in coffee shops and her nights co-hosting the podcast Not Another Mum Pod. In between she’s busy trying (and often failing) to be super mum, super wife and super chef. 


What I Thought

It great to see both a British based rom com and an own voices debut exploring Bengali Muslim culture. 

The premise is a great one, a year to find a husband or an arranged marriage it is – and all the pressure that goes with that. External and internal pressures do make you empathise with main character Zara’s internal conflict.

Firstly, I will admit to being a little triggered by this book so that definitely affected my enjoyment slightly. As someone who is involuntarily childless all the talk of dried up eggs definitely cut deep but sadly it reflects the way that slightly older women on the dating scene can be seen by themselves or others – and that needs to start changing.

That is definitely not a reason to settle for anyone though and this is what this book explores. Is it a case of pitching Mr Perfect against Mr Perfectly Fine though – No. But when no one is Mr Perfect and you’ve been hurt before how do you know how much to compromise? Is safety and security enough, does attraction need to come into it at all? 

I have to admit to feeling a bit sorry for the male characters at times – shocker and I do slightly wish she had had a little more agency in the eventful conclusion of the story. 

However the writing and culture depicted was vibrant and its great to see some familiar locations featured for once. I think it would make a fun movie for sure.

Thanks to Tracey at Compulsive Readers and the publishers for a gifted copy of the book for the purposes of an honest review. Do check out everyone else’s blog posts which I’m sure are more than just fine. 

Posted on July 15, 2022, in Book Reviews and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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